The Law is a Ass
Apr. 19th, 2002 10:47 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
bcholmesSo, yesterday morning, I spoke to a lawyer about children and legal responsibility stuff. Ldot has been making more concrete plans about her desire to have kids, and I want to determine if there are any ways that I can avoid becoming legally responsible for them. It may be necessary for us to have separate residences.
Then in the afternoon, I went off to a client meeting. (Which is higher on the evil scale: lawyer, or customer? Hmmm...)
My project has all the ear-marks of a disaster waiting to happen. There are way too many groups involved, too many external dependencies, and not enough time to do the work in. The guy in charge has alienated a whole bunch'a people, and the overall project manager is micro-managing, and hence our big status meetings are as much fun as a visit to the dentist.
Today I got to play fun-with-WebSphere. That was more fun than poking myself in the eye with a pointed stick!
Then in the afternoon, I went off to a client meeting. (Which is higher on the evil scale: lawyer, or customer? Hmmm...)
My project has all the ear-marks of a disaster waiting to happen. There are way too many groups involved, too many external dependencies, and not enough time to do the work in. The guy in charge has alienated a whole bunch'a people, and the overall project manager is micro-managing, and hence our big status meetings are as much fun as a visit to the dentist.
Today I got to play fun-with-WebSphere. That was more fun than poking myself in the eye with a pointed stick!
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Date: 2002-04-24 01:52 pm (UTC)Tricky one. But I'd be even more concerned about the moral, than the legal, responsibilities. If you're around the kid(s) enough that they bond with you as a parent figure (or even as an "auntie" figure), then it would be damaging to them if you ever dropped out of their lives. Something to consider, before getting involved with kids in the first place.
But re: financial/legal responsibility: I would think that it shouldn't be *too* difficult to set things up so as to keep it clear that you're intending and intended to play an "auntie" and not a "parent" role for the child(ren). Separate residences would help make that clear, but might not be the only way.
Another thing that might help would be for Ldot to make up a will specifying guardianship of the child(ren) in the event of her death or incapacity. That should help show that you were never intended to be in a parental role. It might also help if she renews her signature on that every so often, so it can't be argued that the document only shows the intention as of some years ago, but intentions may have changed since then.
Just an idea. But I'm sure the lawyer is much more knowledgeable than I.