Why does this bug me?
Apr. 13th, 2002 04:39 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
bcholmesSiobhan asked me why this is bugging me so much.
"Is it because she's talking about things publically?"
No. I can understand that part.
I do have a problem with her take on a number of things, and her recollection of some events bears no resemblance to my own. It bothers me that there's such a wide gap between her recollection and my own.
What really sticks in my craw is stuff that I know we've discussed before and which I thought we'd worked out. It's like she's completely rewritten all those previous discussions into something... nasty.
And then there's stuff that, from my perspective, appears completely fabricated. Things she claims that I said or did. What's up with that?
"Is it because she's talking about things publically?"
No. I can understand that part.
I do have a problem with her take on a number of things, and her recollection of some events bears no resemblance to my own. It bothers me that there's such a wide gap between her recollection and my own.
What really sticks in my craw is stuff that I know we've discussed before and which I thought we'd worked out. It's like she's completely rewritten all those previous discussions into something... nasty.
And then there's stuff that, from my perspective, appears completely fabricated. Things she claims that I said or did. What's up with that?
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Date: 2002-04-16 12:47 pm (UTC)Well, personally, I've come to understand that if partners and exes can find something to complain about about you, that just means you're a real person. And if I don't hear any complaints about you, that just means there's something I'm not hearing. And the exact nature of the the complaints is valid as (part of) one person's experience of you, but it's never "the whole truth".
I'm sure that anybody who really matters is wise enough to see that. And anybody who doesn't really matter doesn't really matter. Right? :)