I admit to being young, white - for that matter, tall, leggy, and blondish, and femmy too, for all that it matters. The dual advantages of being conventionally pretty attractive and being femmy mean that I can do anything Nicole Kidman can do.
Of course, getting respect from anyone for having brains takes a little more effort. And, on the other side of the coin, it's harder to break into the communities that I would like to be in: because obviously young leggy blonds shouldn't have a thought in their heads or capabilities beyond "looking good."
Gender priveledge for women is a hard thing: On the one hand, transgressive gender is hard: on the other hand, the experience of male priveledge at any point in your life, or the ability to present as, if not male, then at least as "not your average woman" lend advantages to gender-queers that I really envy.
It also makes breaking into queer communities hard. There's enourmous temptation to date men more often, hang in het S/M communities, and restrict my bi interations to folk I know, just because they are 'easier' social situations for me. Not that I know what that means.
on the other hand, the experience of male priveledge at any point in your life, or the ability to present as, if not male, then at least as "not your average woman" lend advantages to gender-queers that I really envy.
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Date: 2004-07-01 01:04 am (UTC)Of course, getting respect from anyone for having brains takes a little more effort. And, on the other side of the coin, it's harder to break into the communities that I would like to be in: because obviously young leggy blonds shouldn't have a thought in their heads or capabilities beyond "looking good."
Gender priveledge for women is a hard thing: On the one hand, transgressive gender is hard: on the other hand, the experience of male priveledge at any point in your life, or the ability to present as, if not male, then at least as "not your average woman" lend advantages to gender-queers that I really envy.
It also makes breaking into queer communities hard. There's enourmous temptation to date men more often, hang in het S/M communities, and restrict my bi interations to folk I know, just because they are 'easier' social situations for me. Not that I know what that means.
Re: *nods*
Date: 2004-07-01 08:45 am (UTC)That's a really interesting point, and well said.