This is something that i became aware existed i think because of TV. Although i never actually figured out exactly HOW to place my utensils, just that there was a way to place your utensils that meant you were done. Interestingly, i also remember learning something about placing your fork in a certain way meant you were displeased with the food (this one i think someone told me, rather than picking it up from TV).
I am pretty absolutely certain that i did not learn this from my family. Having gracious table manners wasn't something my people generally cared about (so long as you weren't, like, outright rude or piggish), altho' occasionally i recall someone being mocked because they held their fork in a strange way. Families are weird.
I did eventually learn gracious table manners, because one of my dearest friends in college came from relatively fancy people in Maryland, so she was like, "if you want to learn, i'll show you what i know." People still occasionally comment that i have really nice table manners, and honesty i just feel awkward about it — altho' at least it came in handy on the rare occasions i've had to sit at a table with fancy people during work dinners, as it gives me one less class thing to be anxious about.
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Date: 2023-11-23 04:09 am (UTC)I am pretty absolutely certain that i did not learn this from my family. Having gracious table manners wasn't something my people generally cared about (so long as you weren't, like, outright rude or piggish), altho' occasionally i recall someone being mocked because they held their fork in a strange way. Families are weird.
I did eventually learn gracious table manners, because one of my dearest friends in college came from relatively fancy people in Maryland, so she was like, "if you want to learn, i'll show you what i know." People still occasionally comment that i have really nice table manners, and honesty i just feel awkward about it — altho' at least it came in handy on the rare occasions i've had to sit at a table with fancy people during work dinners, as it gives me one less class thing to be anxious about.