I learned something today - I had no idea that was a potentially triggery word. Thanks!
Also, someone really articulate and interesting was not really at her best when she was trying to take ownership of what she'd said
This is why people need to be TAUGHT to apologize, so that they have the words and concepts to do it in a not-faily way. I think many people have just never learned the rhetorical skills or grasped the complex interpersonal meanings of apologies, so that even when they ARE genuinely sorry, they have trouble getting it across (vito is awesome and better than most - I don't necessarily mean her, here, but the wider universe of failpology that we have seen recently.) It's never EASY to apologize, God knows, but it's much easier to do it RIGHT when you have a template for what it looks like. < /hobbyhorse>
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Date: 2009-05-29 02:51 pm (UTC)Also, someone really articulate and interesting was not really at her best when she was trying to take ownership of what she'd said
This is why people need to be TAUGHT to apologize, so that they have the words and concepts to do it in a not-faily way. I think many people have just never learned the rhetorical skills or grasped the complex interpersonal meanings of apologies, so that even when they ARE genuinely sorry, they have trouble getting it across (vito is awesome and better than most - I don't necessarily mean her, here, but the wider universe of failpology that we have seen recently.) It's never EASY to apologize, God knows, but it's much easier to do it RIGHT when you have a template for what it looks like. < /hobbyhorse>