What other things constitute a mid-life crisis besides divorcing your faithful wife of 20 years and running off with a 19 year old blonde in your new red Corvette?
I think the closest thing I got to a mid-life crisis was work-related. I got very depressed when I realized that I was going to work every day and spending a lot of mental energy writing software that played around with trivial points of accounting.
I thought... "is this my life? I work 40 hours a week so that Impressive Blue Megacorporation can claim that such-and-such expense happened today instead of tomorrow?"
>What other things constitute a mid-life crisis besides divorcing your faithful wife of 20 years and running off with a 19 year old blonde in your new red Corvette?
what's funny is i did almost exactly that, but that wasn't the crisis.
I'm too young for a mid-life crisis, but I believe I'm going through my third adolescence already. Like being 13 instead of 31. Easier the third time around, though.
I've had 2-3 Life Crises that occurred between the ages of 30-something and 50, so I suppose they could be called mid-life crises.
I walked away from a 20-year profession in which I'd won some acclaim, with nothing lined up to take its place. But that led to other things that have ultimately proven more satisfying than the career.
I freaked out when I got to be the age my father was when he died, convinced that I would die at that age, too. But that sent me into much-overdue therapy that allowed me to divest myself of baggage I've been carrying around all my life.
I had a, hm, something-or-other with someone half my age, based almost entirely on a misguided belief that I could Make Things All Better. Not sure yet what I learned from that, but it's over and done with and all parties are as fine as they can be under the circumstances.
Hmmm... would kicking the pebble that rolled down the hill that started the rockslide that culminated in a gender transition and the end of a 24-year marriage be considered a mid-life crisis? Or just a pebble-kicking?
I think that's what a lot of people mean whe they say "midlife crisis", although it's not very widely known as such. I had my first oen a few years back. Boy was that not fun. Not looking forward to the next one, that's for sure.
I had to go with "huh" because I just don't know what it would mean for me, exactly. I think my brother-in-law has snapped, and so I imagine that *he* might be having a mid-life crisis (leaving a 20-year marriage for a younger woman, etc.) but I'm not sure whether or not I might be in the middle of one right now, myself. It's probably hard to tell if you're smack-dab in the middle of it, in my opinion, just as when you're in the middle of anything. I think, though, that I'm just in a "crisis," one of several that I suppose that we all go through as time marches on.
I had a pre-midlife-crisis planning - I took the motercycle safety course so if I decided to buy a cycle for my midlife crisis I would already have the license.
But I took a 50% pay cut and massivly reduced the stress in my life moving from Chicago to Chapmpaign/Urbana.
I had one starting just about two years ago that was impossible to miss; the initial manifestations have mostly faded away, but I wouldn't bet that I'm out of the woods yet.
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I thought... "is this my life? I work 40 hours a week so that Impressive Blue Megacorporation can claim that such-and-such expense happened today instead of tomorrow?"
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what's funny is i did almost exactly that, but that wasn't the crisis.
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(If you're the Skylark I'm thinking of, we met in North Carolina last year.)
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merry meet again ;-)
the LJ is just the random zone, though. the meat of the matter, as it were, is reserved for my blog.
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I walked away from a 20-year profession in which I'd won some acclaim, with nothing lined up to take its place. But that led to other things that have ultimately proven more satisfying than the career.
I freaked out when I got to be the age my father was when he died, convinced that I would die at that age, too. But that sent me into much-overdue therapy that allowed me to divest myself of baggage I've been carrying around all my life.
I had a, hm, something-or-other with someone half my age, based almost entirely on a misguided belief that I could Make Things All Better. Not sure yet what I learned from that, but it's over and done with and all parties are as fine as they can be under the circumstances.
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I've had several
But I was able to re-build with support from close friends! but the recent one was when my friend had used me for his gain!
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But I took a 50% pay cut and massivly reduced the stress in my life moving from Chicago to Chapmpaign/Urbana.
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