2) the anger you feel about being tossed under the bus by those you may have seen as avowed or natural allies is exactly the same furious frustration felt by (some of) those whose comments you are angry at.
FYI, I'm a queer person.
I'm furious that my own community is throwing me under the bus. I'm furious that my community ignored my existence (and the existence of many other queer people of color). I'm furious that people think being upset/angry/hurt/frustrated is an excuse for being racist.
When I'm in a anger induced rage coma, I still manage to not say and racist things (or sexist, homophobic, transphobic, etc.). I'm sure I will at some point say something horrible in a fit of anger, that doesn't mean it would be OK for me to do that because my emotions were running high. It would still be wrong, and I should still be called out on it.
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FYI, I'm a queer person.
I'm furious that my own community is throwing me under the bus. I'm furious that my community ignored my existence (and the existence of many other queer people of color). I'm furious that people think being upset/angry/hurt/frustrated is an excuse for being racist.
When I'm in a anger induced rage coma, I still manage to not say and racist things (or sexist, homophobic, transphobic, etc.). I'm sure I will at some point say something horrible in a fit of anger, that doesn't mean it would be OK for me to do that because my emotions were running high. It would still be wrong, and I should still be called out on it.