I'm not sure if this is where you're coming from or not, but one thing that jumps to mind is that it's a very common thing for white people to have the "That's Not Helpful" reaction merely at the mention of the word 'racism'. And, well, I think that gets in the way of trying to have any conversation about the many, many ways that racism operates.

Again: no idea if that's applicable here. I'm just sayin'.

Otherwise, I appreciate the openness with which you're talking about this.